How do we know if the person we have fallen in love with is the right one? How can two very different people come together and create a relationship that lasts a lifetime?

Join us for a Chats in the Stacks book talk with Karl Pillemer to hear answers to many questions like these. From interviews with 700 elders, his new book 30 Lessons for Loving: Advice from the Wisest Americans on Love, Relationships, and Marriage (Hudson Street Press, January 2015) is the most detailed survey of long-married people ever conducted. Seeking wisdom from a wide variety of couples who have been together for decades, Pillemer offers us a rare opportunity to learn from those who have made love and commitment work. The book is filled with wonderful stories and insightful narratives, and covers topics such as communicating in constructive ways, keeping the spark alive, and learning how to accept your partner as he or she is.

Karl Pillemer is Professor of Human Development and the founder and director of the Cornell Institute for Translational Research on Aging, a center that works to increase public awareness of aging research. He is also Professor of Gerontology in Medicine at the Weill Cornell Medical College, and the author of 30 Lessons for Living, published in 2011. More information can be found on The Legacy Project website at http://legacyproject.human.cornell.edu/category/love-and-marriage/.

Light refreshments served, and Buffalo Street Books will have books available for purchase and signing.